By Brandon Smith
One rule has remained true for generations when it comes to the division between the sexes: Men are held accountable for everything, women accept accountability for nothing.
Obviously, there’s going to be exceptions to the rule, but the majority of the time it is true that modern western women have a serious problem taking responsibility when things go wrong. They have been taught from a very early age that they are victims: Victims of men, victims of society, victims of “patriarchy”, victims of religion, victims of biology, victims of circumstance, etc.
The feminist movement is built entirely around the notion that women can weaponize their victimhood as a means to control society.
I continue to hold that feminism is the KEY movement that has undermined the success of western culture. Their zealotry has led to the destruction of the nuclear family (the most important factor in a healthy nation). They have helped to facilitate the near collapse of the west and this problem needs to be addressed before it’s too late.
I recently came across an article in the New York Times which explains the decline in western relationships in a way that is both hilarious and depressing. The essay is titled ‘Men, Where Have You Gone? Please Come Back’. The author (a 50-something woman from Chicago) recalls the old days of dating when men were easy targets for exploitation.
“We knew what worked. We knew how to frame a face, a gesture, a moment of implication — just enough to ignite fantasy and open a wallet. I came to understand, in exact terms, what cues tempt the average 18-to-36-year-old cis heterosexual man. What drew him in. What kept him coming back. It wasn’t intimacy. It wasn’t mutuality. It was access to simulation — clean, fast and frictionless…”
“…That dynamic has quietly collapsed. We have moved into an era where many men no longer seek women to impress other men or to connect across difference. They perform elsewhere. Alone. They’ve filtered us out.”
The author insinuates that the era of easy money and easy sex for women was a product of the masculine dynamics of competition and status (blame men). Yet, she also seems to be waxing nostalgic, longing for those days to return. This was the “Sex And The City” era in the late 1990s and early 2000s that was born from the sexual revolution of second wave feminism. It was the era in which female promiscuity and greed was glorified as the ultimate expression of women’s empowerment.
The idea was to turn women’s early adult years into a Dionysian orgy; giving away sex to any man with decent looks and a fat wallet in the hopes of eventually trapping a lifetime pay-pig. Marriage and maybe family would come in their 30s (or maybe 40s), but not until they had achieved as much degenerate fun as they could muster.
The problem is, women are on a biological clock, which is why for thousands of years marriage was THE primary concern for the fairer sex. To waste their 20s giving away their bodies for nothing? That was unthinkable insanity. This would doom them to decades of misery as lonely old maids living off the charity of others, and frankly nothing has changed. Childless cat ladies are still a thing and they are still embarrassing.
Only in the first world are these women able to survive.
No one looks at a spinster and sees her as “powerful” or free. Everyone can smell her failure. Her desperation. Her cope. This is why, more and more, we are beginning to see a sense of panic among women who bought into the feminist con game. They’re realizing that men are not chasing them anymore.
It started out as a joke among woke leftists who laughed at the “rise of incels”. The number of single men refusing to enter the dating world was skyrocketing and the feminists said this was a good thing. Let the “ugly scrubs” wallow in their loneliness while the ladies go out and gorge on freedom and fun until they get sick. However, the trend has continued to the point that a majority of men are checking out completely.
Recent surveys reveal that 63% of young men ages 18-29 are single. Around 30% of men have not been sexually active for a year or more. In 1980, 60% of adults were married by the age of 25. Today, only 20% are married by age 25. Men are exiting relationships and marriage at record pace, and because men are the initiators of relationships (men are biologically designed to take risks and pursue), women are starting to feel the pinch.
The latest data predicts that 45% of women ages of 25 to 44 will be single and childless by the year 2030, and not necessarily by choice. If a woman is single and childless by the time she reaches her mid-30s, her chances of creating a family drop exponentially along with her fertility.
They are calling it the female loneliness epidemic and it’s bearing down on western society like a freight train. Even feminists are getting worried. As the New York Times opines:
“There was a time, not so long ago, when even a one-night stand might end with tangled limbs and a shared breakfast. When the act of staying the night didn’t announce a relationship, just a willingness to be human for a few more hours. Now, even that kind of unscripted contact feels rare. We’ve built so many boundaries that we’ve walled off the very moments that make connection memorable…”
“This idea that vulnerability is a threat instead of an invitation has created a culture of hesitation, of men circling intimacy but never entering it. And the result is thousands of tiny silos. Everyone performing closeness, but no one making a move that binds. Isolation. Loneliness. A hunger for contact that has nowhere to land…”
But of course, the Times doesn’t seem to think women are culpable in the slightest for this outcome. Instead, they continue the blame game:
“So here’s what I’ll say: You are missed. Not just by me, but by the world you once helped shape…”
“We remember you. The version of you that lingered at the table. That laughed from the chest. That asked questions and waited for the answers. That touched without taking. That listened – really listened – when a woman spoke.
You are not gone, but your presence is thinning. In restaurants, in friendships, in the slow rituals of romantic emergence. You’ve retreated – not into malice, but into something softer and harder all at once: Avoidance. Exhaustion. Disrepair.
Maybe no one taught you how to stay. Maybe you tried once, and it hurt. Maybe the world told you your role was to provide, to perform, to protect — and never to feel…”
Listen men, your lack of participation is starting to stress out the ladies. Just admit you can’t handle intimacy. Just admit you can’t handle these “powerful” women and their vast intellects and emotional genius. You need to be taught how to behave, that’s all. Just crawl back to them and they’re ready to tolerate you again. Isn’t that nice? They’re giving you a second chance…
At no point does the author ask WHY men are exhausted? At no point does she ask any actual men what they think or feel before writing her nonsensical screed. Obscured by insufferable and flowery prose, she still blames men while asking them to come back. And that should tell you everything you need to know about feminism in general.
I would ask feminists the million dollar question that they have avoided for so long: Have you considered the possibility that men ghost you and will not commit to you because YOU are the problem? The answer is no, obviously.
I’m a man in my mid-40s who thankfully dodged the bulk of wokeness in the dating world, but I think I can still explain for the NYT why men are walking away if they’re willing to listen.
1) First, I must say that an author in her 50s still longing for casual sitcom encounters like she’s in her 20s reveals a lot about why modern women are oblivious. Real life is not Sex In The City – Most men of means do not gravitate towards long term relationships with women in their grandma phase. She should already be in a happy relationship or marriage, she’s had plenty of time to figure this out.
Feminism has made women think they can engage with life on their own schedule. They can’t.
2) Men are especially wary of women with baggage. Women initiate 70% of breakups and divorces and feminist influence over family law has made divorce easier and more lucrative than ever for women. The older a woman is the more baggage she has and the less likely a man is going to want to date her seriously, let alone put an expensive ring on her finger.
Western women have been taught they need to party in their 20s, then pursue serious relationships in their 30s or 40s. Meaning, they ignore their best prospects for at least a decade. Their ideology sets them up to enter the relationship market when their marriage value is lowest.
3) Men are no longer tolerating the concept of the sexual revolution. They don’t want to take any chances on women who think promiscuity is a virtue. They know that statistically, women who sleep around lack discernment, the ability to connect, self respect and mental stability. Starting a relationship with such a person will only lead to disaster. They never stay happy for long (the grass is always greener). And so, men stay home. Want to get them back? Keep your body count low.
4) Third-Wave Feminists spent the better part of the last 20 years telling men they are pure evil for being masculine and wanting to chase women. So, men did what you asked of them – They stopped chasing you. They found other more interesting endeavors like their careers and their hobbies. If you want men to come back, perhaps you should APOLOGIZE for all those years of slander.
5) Modern women have greatly overestimated the usefulness of sex as a bartering tool for securing a man. If you want a man to stick around you’re going to have to show him love and respect, not just what’s inside your pants.
6) Men are far more conditioned to be alone than women are. Women are communal creatures. They rely on constant interactions, affirmations and group inclusion. Social media might fill the void for a while but it can’t give them what they really want – Intimate personal attention 24/7. Only a partner and children can give you that. In a battle of who can endure loneliness longer, men will win, so don’t make it into a battle.
7) I’ll tell you the biggest open secret that modern women still don’t understand – They claim that men are afraid of approaching them. They say that men today are “weak” and that they can’t handle the new era of the “boss babe”. They argue that men need to abandon their traditional masculine roles and act more feminine; this will make it easier for everyone to get along.
These are common jabs at the male ego designed to make men feel ashamed for distancing themselves from feminists. In reality, men value one thing above all else: Peace. If you can’t offer peace, then no man with any sense of self worth has a use for you. Feminists offer the opposite of peace, and so they have no value.
8) Feminism, like all Marxist movements, is obsessed with power. Everything they do is driven by a desire for power and control; not just over their own lives but over the world around them. Modern women say they want the same power as men, but they need to accept that no matter how much the scales are tipped in their favor through laws, government subsidies, easy college grants, DEI hiring and unfair divorce, they will never be like men.
The author suggests that men no longer shape the world because they have abandoned the current relationship dynamic. This is foolish. Men continue to shape everything around you. Every utility, every necessity, every government, nearly every company, your safety and security, your ability to be free, it’s all reliant on men. You have no power and you never will.
Feminist empowerment is a fantasy based on institutional leverage which men ALLOW them to have. Until they stop coveting power they can’t comprehend or handle the divisions between men and women will not be resolved. In short, if feminists want men to pay attention to them again, they will have to stop being feminists.
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For years, decades even, the lie of the century has been quietly adjudicated by men cast off in the ratchet of the ascendant progressive moral imperative. The cost of living the truth in the face of progress rising even as the fruits of its evil piled up around our feet. Yet men still paid. To resist and to submit. All paths converged in the harvesting of male utility while diminishing the returns to the individual man.
During that time three generations of boys and men were destroyed so that some fraction of women could pretend to be men.
Even still the biggest issue is some tranny stealing girlsport trophies – with legions of men white knighting to end this assault on progress while ignoring the broken boys and the entirety of how we got here.
No civilization has survived this lie. Ours will be no different. Courage is the virtue above all else because no other virtues exist when under duress without it. So go ahead, tell a woman “no”. That would be a start.
Until then, thank the boys now for what they will be called to do in the near future when the thin troposphere of abundance and luxury evaporates overnight as reality comes to settle her tab. Aloha snackbar.
At least 3 generations of boys and men! Yes, I agree with that. And the damage has already been done. Once a man has seen women’s liberation, he can’t unsee it. It completely transforms his entire view of women. Sure, a man still has burning desire, but the feminist movement and the legal, social and political structure around it has destroyed the ability to bridge the gap. Even if the laws, courts and the entire structure were changed, the fundamental principles of heterosexual relationships have been destroyed. It’s basically been reduced to nothing more than basic animal desire. Women have been trained from birth to show scorn, ridicule and contempt for all things masculine and at least 3 generations of males have been destroyed, no longer able to relate to females in a long term relationship. Marriage? That was outlawed decades ago. Government forms don’t even allude to the term “Head of Household “ anymore. Men have been reduced to nothing more than an equal with a woman in a society where even the judges can’t define what a woman is, much less what a marriage is. That’s why the government issues a marriage certificate for 2 fagmosexuals to cohabitate as buddies. This nations and government have no idea what marriage is. Most of our Grandmothers were married somewhere around the age of 13-15. That is illegal now because a nation of homosexuals does not want women to have lasting marriages that produce lots of children. It wants men to wait until women are so old and so liberated and so set in their ways that they cannot conform to their husband. And yes Brandon, men are not leaving women. Men have already left women. Men are Not interested in having a woman who never worked for anything, suddenly in possession of everything a man has ever worked for simply because he accepted a contract that places a government that doesn’t know what marriage is in charge over his life with a woman who thinks it is her prerogative to change her mind as soon as she feels like she’s unhappy.
Having said all that, I can’t help but remind men that this is what God does to a nation of men who forget God. It’s like God is saying, “I’m going to turn your women against you to show you how it feels.”
Feminism is just one aspect of the overall war on The People and our constructive legacy social structures by the pervasived, invasive Dark State. Along with the attack on Whites in general… on our youth… on our mental state as tormented and propagandized by Dark State Media… on our health and welfare… on our sense of personal sovereignty and our need to believe in a positive future. The Dark Staters’ war on The People has been thorough, effective, and pervasive since at least beginning of the 20th Century.
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Men today are afraid to be men… and Women today are told to feel foolish if they want to look like and think like and act live and BE – Women. More effective mind-warping and poisoning by The Dark Ones.
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As for men being men – this does not mean being brutes and selfish and insensitive. It means being persons of character… good leaders… dependable… powerful… yet attuned to the thoughts and needs of others. And not apologizing for being a (real) man.
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As for women being women – this does not mean you have to stay home and have children if you don’t want to. But it does mean not tatting up your once-beautiful bodies until they begin to look just like roadside bulletin boards. But it also means finding value in staying home and raising kids the right way and being the heart of the family structure. It means not trying to act like men – because we already have men for that. You can live an authentic life and do it within an effective family structure.
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Feminism on it’s shallow face uses a facade that looks and sounds like it’s of good intention when it is in fact nothing of the kind. It is a lethal weapon and an assault on the most foundational part of human life – that of the Family. If you destroy ‘women’… you not only destroy them but men as well. Because men need women – as women, not as more men. And children need women to be the nurturing heart and dependable hand that they can always count on to be there and PRESENT (and not just look at their Little Magic Box of Dancing Pixels all day). To actually be mothers that are front-and-center present in the lives of their children.
Feminism is toxic. And like all toxins… they need to be removed from healthy tissue. And the healthy tissue is the legacy family with man, woman, and child all loving and respecting each other. And not trying to be something else or steal the proper place of another.
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Many people today are a mess. They don’t know who they are or what they should be. Here’s a hint: Look to the legacy cultures that have thrived over the centuries and see what made them what they are. And that is – strong loving families living with good purpose who know how they contribute best to the overall family – and why. And they are happy in that both personally and in knowing what they are contributing to those most close to them.
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It’s not that hard unless you decide to make it so.
Bravo! Well said. We have all seen self-styled “environmentalists” who take action in some complex biological system, who alter some factor in it expecting to make things “more natural” and find that the result is a die off of needed plants or animals. Kill off the wolves to protect the deer and the deer overpopulate. Bring the wolves back, but now the vegetation has already been striped and the river banks are collapsing killing the fish. A little knowledge is a dangerous thing, and complex, chaotic systems are best left to themselves.
It turns out that the sexual and biological dimorphism of male and female is equally complicated. A few sociologists (urged on, no doubt, by their own desires) managed to convince several generations of young students that it was perfectly feasible to throw sand into the poorly understood workings of human attraction and mating. Apparently they read Fitzgerald’s “Rubaiyat” and thought it was a good idea:
“Could thou and I with Fate conspire
To grasp this sorry Scheme of Things entire,
Would not we shatter it to bits – and then
Re-mould it nearer to the Heart’s Desire!”
Looks like neither God nor Darwin will be mocked.
quite the well written essay. i’ve sent the url to a few close friends, it’s worth their time to read. keep up the good work.
Rush said it best years ago Femi Nazis – useless trash contributing Nothing to Society – Self Centered Kuntz.
Brandon, I’m sure from what you have said that you have done at least some of the same research that I have on this subject. A search for MGTOW on YouTube or Pearl Davis, passport brothers and a number of other key words about men going their own way will quickly clarify just how big this really is. And yes, you are correct that women are noticing. Also look up China bride price vanishing on YouTube to see that 1000 women will show up at a matchmaking event where there are zero men.
But also to confirm what your article says, women haven’t learned much from this. As the women’s conference in Dallas this last week reiterated, now that women have taken men’s jobs in public and that is collapsing, women are now teaching other women that their greatest fulfillment in life is not the cubical, but the countertop and cabinet at home having babies. It’s still all about women being fulfilled and happy. Nothing about how to be a good wife and submissive, faithful or obedient to their husband.
Excellent article, Brandon. I’m in my late 60’s and I have seen the changes to relationships since the 70’s. I’d like to add to what you eloquently stated that, I also believe that men have gotten a little tired of being feminized by the opposite sex. The feminists decided to flip the roles of man and woman to their advantage. As you wrote, it obviously backfired on them.
I come from the era where women cooked for the men. The girls I dated in the 70’s would invite me over for dinner and they prepared the meal from scratch. There was a saying that “a way to a man’s heart, is thru his stomach”. Now men do the cooking for the women. Years ago it was acceptable for men to have body hair. Now men are expected not to have body hair. Back in the 60’s what women thought was sexy about James Bond hairy chest has been out of vogue for decades. Today a man’s appearance is expected to look more like a woman’s body with little to no body hair at all.
Years ago commercial’s didn’t treat men as idiots and morons but today, that’s how commercials portray men, as bumbling idiots who couldn’t find the sidewalk without their wives pointing to it.
Different times and sadly as you wrote, some of the reasons why we see relationship problems today.
And i’ll also add that the jargon and lexicon used today, which got its start in the gay community has in my view also had an ill effect. Today, you rarely hear or read, husband and wife or boy friend and girlfriend. Rather those words have been replaced with “partner” which neutralizes the roles in the relationship.
You’d best bring an armed security detail with you on a date with a modern girl or woman if you plan to ask her to cook for you.
That’s why Subway has been very busy in alot of places.
Q: What does Subway and prostitution have in common?
A: Because you are paying someone else to do a job your wife is supposed to be doing.
Reading this was like watching an autopsy…disturbing and educational. It’s actually probably the best piece I’ll read all year! Kudos.
Glad the writer mentioned feminism as a marxist angle.
Communists have been trying to subvert America for 100 years and feminism is part of that family-destroying, western culture destruction.
Reading both the article and the comments is somewhat depressing, and shows how badly independent thinkers are needed, these days!
I’ve never paid a whit of attention to anything that smacks of communism, or to bullsh*t marketing or any gov’t edict/recommend of any kind. I relish my ability to t h i n k.
I wholeheartedly agree with this article! I’m a 71 year old man and have seen it all. I can’t say much more than this as I’m still married and this might get back to her.
I could not agree more.
I got tired of the weaponized vagina, the control through emotion and lack of reason from the other side. It had become a game to them to see how much they could make a man go beyond his boundaries just to keep them “happy”.
In 2005 I told my wife I’d had enough and divorced her. I’ve had one relationship since that started moving into that same, familiar territory and I immediately kicked her to the curb.
I’m now mid-60’s, make mid-six figures, am in shape and reasonably good looking. I have no desire to subject myself to the crap I left behind, by choice 20 years ago.
Let’s face it-without sex there really is little value. And the sex is never worth the BS you have to endure. Not for one night a d certainly not for a lifetime.
Think of this: Disasters make all the difference. Men were in short supply after WW2. Women craved the attention of a man with the hopes of being married and taken under his care as she provided him with a home and family. The riskiest occupations are held mostly by men. The reality show “Ax Men” has not been supplemented with “Ax Chicks” or something like it. “Deadliest Catch” was noticeably lacking women crewmembers. Risk free jobs and occupations are ubiquitous in our current era. Flying military aircraft is so safe even a woman can do it and so they cry and scream for the chance to do what the guys are doing so they can establish themselves as one of the guys. Just wait for everything to revert back to conditions resembling the mid nineteenth century and see how women feel about chopping wood, guiding a plow, digging outhouses and fetching water. When “Toughen up or die” becomes the axiom to live by, we will see women either becoming frontier women or casualties of their own vanity. Men will be ranked on their heavy lifting skills and ability to bring home a Bison. When life is easy, the feminists want to be large and in charge. When difficulties litter the land, they may become bossy bitches for a short while until they are relegated to nags left behind as the MEN launch out to set things right. And if women/feminists can not handle heavy sarcasm, then too bad.
I blame the Germans. We lost so many men in the two World Wars that the balance of power in society shifted in favour of women. Feminism gained traction, the West became unhealthy and stopped breeding and the long ascendancy of masculine Islam began.
I once overheard an older gentleman with a strong sense of humor and reality that had lost his wife much earlier talking to two older women in the waiting room at the dentist about re-marriage. He said, “I would get married again, but I can’t find a woman that makes enough money to pay me the Alimony I think I deserve.” Yep, he’s got modern women figured out. It went right over the heads of the two women he was chatting with and they just giggled like he had said something off the wall that meant nothing.
A very fine analysis Brandon. One of your best.
And the comments are worth working right through as well; Brandon has stuck a chord and readers are showing they are fully in tune. Thank you, everyone.
Brandon, still at the top of your game! Love most of your reads!!
I worked overseas in the offshore oil industry & US Army before that. The happiest guys I knew we the ones with foreign/ non western wives. Wives from Korea, Filipino. I worked in Kazakhstan, beautiful, educated women who married the Shell oil guys I worked with. Those guys had peace in their homes. The other poor bastards I worked with were making huge $$$ but it was never enough for their western wives. 6 weeks on the frozen Kazakh steps in winter and they didn’t want to go home.
Find a Thai, Filipino, Korean or even Kazakh wife… And be happy, not berated & abused.
Hey Otto, I agree with your sentiment, but I think times are changing and even the 3rd worlders are already a problem. I’ve heard something to the effect of, “You can take the gold-digger out of the mine, but you can’t take her mind off the gold”. So they adapt to the higher standard once you get them to a first world environment surrounded by their first world friends as they are basically purely social creatures who are always trying to “keep up with the Joneses”. The only way to avoid that is isolation.
Also, I should mention that 30 years ago when I was at UCLA, I had the misfortune of taking a Feminist Epistomology class as I made the silly mistake of thinking that it may be fun to take a class likely exclusively full of girls. Boy was that a mistake. The “professor” was a definite lesbian short-haired dyke who talked down to me just for being a man and the amount of twisted sense of “logic” there was shocking — even when I tried my best to agree with their nutty theories that were mostly based on “feelings” anyway. That was way before I ever had the inkling of the idea that the CIA / Mossad could be involved in a major brainwashing of the American public, so I can only imagine how deep the brainwashing goes now with LGBT issues being much more prevalent today.
Proverbs 21:9
New International Version
9 Better to live on a corner of the roof
than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
Love the Bible verse, but I have avoided the NIV ever since I found out that there was a lesbian on the translation board. Thankfully she wasn’t allowed to mess that one up and change the wording.
Some of these feminists also need to read the last chapter in Proverbs, of what makes a wise woman. Sadly, Proverbs 21:9 is not too far off, either.
Women have been tricked by the left and communism much the same way Satan tricked Eve into the downfall of both men AND women. Men don’t need women but women need men and the desperation shows in feminism. The bottom line is only one race will save them – the white man. The rest will enslave, WAPE them, or use them as seed for their own progeny of destruction and enslavement cycle which keeps the MO of the left alive. Misery and hardship on you and white man GONE!
Excellent writing, and just donated! Keep up the good work!
I firmly believe the fruits of the depopulation scheme tree planted some time ago are coming to bear.
As a woman of advanced age (65) I see women younger than me give themselves away too quickly and for no reason. I’m surprised there is still a business of prostitution! I miss the days of marriage before intimacy. The line in the wedding vow, “you may now kiss the bride,” makes no sense these days—as does the line, “for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, as long as you both shall live.”
LS: This is one of the reasons I “church” online since 2008: Churches have high divorce rates like general public. Cell phones ringing in service and one woman let hers ring too long (many women feel entitled). Watered down preaching to please everyone. Pastor and assoc. pastor scandals even in fundamental churches some taking other men’s wives, causing splits and bitterness lasting decades w/those that split. One church the pastor was counceling women abt various “family issues” ended up having affairs w/ several women. People asking Q about house or car pmts., etc. Husband and I were fed up.
You got all that right, but as pastor said this morning, believers shouldn’t try to go it alone. Even the apostle Paul had fellowship with other believers.
I’m an orthodox Christian.
Our families typically have 4+ children, with several families of 8+.
Men are the spiritual head of the house, bread winner, and protector.
Nearly all the wives put their professional careers on hold to be mothers. Women home school, cook, and clean.
Both parents nurture and role model Commandment-defined values and behaviors.
I joined a local oca dot org church five years ago and my soul and mind have been at peace since.
Even in Afghanistan without social media this is happening.
Watch a YouTube documentary named “Love crimes of Kabul”.
1. One lady knocks back good guys for a penniless guy. She would sneak into HIS house.
(Going for the bad boy)
2. He doesn’t want to marry her and says he wished he never met her.
(The “Chad” & “Tyrone” who doesn’t care for the women he has sex with. )
3. She threatens to go to the police if he doesn’t marry her. But they arrest her for pre-marital sex.
With another woman, a fat divorced woman runs away from her house and stays in another guy’s house who lives with his mother. All 3 get arrested.
The divorced woman puts a high value on herself not wanting to marry the guy that she stayed with.
(She knows that her family will kill her and her village will avoid her. )
She has an over inflated sense of worth with a low S.M.V. (Sexual marketplace value) but still is deluded as she “wants her pockets full” waiting for a 10/10 man.
Thank you for writing this. I have battled the ill effects of feminism for 45 years. Thank you for acknowledging the struggle.
When I was not laughing, as per Rachel Drucker’s article: I was saddened and disgusted by this masturbatory intellectual exercise of self-aggrandizement. All at the expense of we some good men. Apparently, she was a looker when younger, but some dudes prefer cougars now a days. Preferably without the burden of ‘luggage”. You qualified this article well Mr. Smith.
She obviously knows how to write well, this article is a typical NYT labyrinthine cometary all haughty self-satisfied and full of feminist rumination.
What would it cost her to juts let thigs e let go of the control and attempts at subterfuge and projection. How about you just try and enjoy whatever happens nothing has to go anywhere; problem with you gals is all you ever think about is sex! I am being whimsical. But I’m not nor ever have proclivities toward promiscuity.
Yes, the entire feminist-woke agenda (me as toxic??) is based on castle floating on thin air but then again that is what self-determination gets you these days.
Most of us already know, ask you mother and grandmother they will know that men are the stewards of this planet. They are generative, creative, our power comes from above the stars. We give safety and security, (we have died i hundreds of thousands of battles for 400,000 years): unity, reverence and faith in the love for companionship and family. We can be very strong or quite soft or silly, we give meaning and direction to our communities.
What else is it when you get together for a casual date, try to live in the moment and have fun
What is really sad is that these Femi-Nazi’s (as Rush so accurately dubbed them) have ruined relationships for those women who are NOT like them. And really, who can blame a man these days? They are better off alone with a dog at home. At least the dog will not take him to the cleaners if he leaves the house. Not to mention there is a lot less drama, as well.
I have never understood why the Feminine force or the Masculine force requires the crushing of the other in order to achieve stature. They are two sides of the same coin; the polarities that exist in physical incarnation; Light/Dark, day/night, hot/cold, above/below, etc. The annihilation of one does not improve the other, just diminishes it.
Native American Proverb
“A woman’s highest calling is to lead a man to his soul so as to unite him with Source. A man’s greatest calling is to protect woman so that she is free to walk the earth unharmed”.
It’s an attempt to undermine biological realities in society. A man’s job is to provide, protect, but also to LEAD his family. Feminists demand that they gain access to the authority genetically inherent in men while never actually taking on any of the responsibility or accountability. Feminists argue that men’s power and authority is “oppressive” to women, but the fact is that women enjoy inherent privileges also – Like not being expendable to society in the event of a crisis. Women simply need to accept that they have their roles, and men need to accept that we have ours, and we need to stop pretending as if we can change those roles, because we can’t. If we try, society collapses.
Hence the ongoing collapse. I saw a rather pertinent meme a while back that perfectly illustrated your excellent article. It depicted a well muscled young man carrying a young woman and her infant in his arms through a flooding river. The quote at the top of the picture was “Toxic Masculinity” and the quote at the bottom was “When the shit hits the fan, no one goes looking for a feminist”.
Well as long as we are playing such games and using Indian culture to support it, I must say that
I can’t agree with the Native American proverb, which was likely written by a modern woman who doesn’t understand the proper roles of men and women. However, I saw a statement the other day about the American Indians that you would probably disagree with as well.
A man said that American Indians had a system worked out where the men hunted and fished all day while sharing a tent with an attractive squaw at night. The women, on the other hand did all of the work(they called it women’s work) and menial chores in the village. And somehow the white man thinks that with all of our modern technology he can improve on that system.
Great, great article, Brandon. I’m currently 69 years old, and grew up as feminism was raising its ugly head. I was NEVER a feminist. My personal observation is that feminists are women that are overcompensating for the fact that they have never done anything worthwhile with their lives, and claim their privileges just because they have a vagina.
Personally, I both respect men and feel sorry for them for what they have to put up with with women, both at home and in the workplace. I work better with men than I do with women, because I don’t like putting up with most women’s emotional blackmail and general B.S. That’s why I gravitated towards working in construction for most of my career (I’m a civil engineer), because other than secretaries, I don’t have to deal much with feminists and their ilk. I also do not like feminist men, preferring alpha men with hair on their chest. And yes, I have on occasion asked for “a big strong man to help me lift that 50 lb. bag of concrete into my truck”. Men love this, and I love their response.
I’ve been with my alpha male for 34+ years, and I think he’s going to stick around. He’s a keeper too, as long as he doesn’t embrace feminism.
Good article. I would add that as a divorced gen x-er who has also been in several failed post-marriage relationships over the last 10 years, it’s worse than most people realize. A majority percentage of modern women have an ego and attitude which is vastly disproportionate to their actual value. Think “boss babe” but likely with one or more of the following: taking anti-depressants, loads of credit card/student loan debt, drug/alcohol issues, cluster B personality disorders, ridiculous garbage tattoos scrawled all over their body, multiple baby-daddies, and disagreeable/obnoxious/combative personalities. I’m single and living alone now, which is fine as I’m well past the “marriage and children” phase of life. The best I can hope for now is maybe a FWB situation, but even that is risky due to “#metoo” and rampant STDs.
Hey HockeyGuy, I just wanted to give a shout out since I also love playing ice hockey. I’m married, but I see what you’re talking about everywhere. The good wife is the minority.
I’m 53 and in my second marriage and not going too well…. I hear you, they’re never happy. I have my faults, I’m not perfect, and I assume it, but it’s never enough… why bother? It’s exhausting and I just can’t take it anymore, the constant nagging and damn arguments for nothing. Brandon said it best: WE WANT PEACE!!!
I realize there’s a lot of considerations, but I’d encourage you to just get out now with as little acrimony as possible. Having your own space and total peace and quiet is worth it. Men are socially trained from a young age to make womens happiness and solving women’s problems their priority. The problem with that is that it’s a never-ending Sisyphean task that slowly drains you and erases your dreams. Good luck!
Young women were tricked into becoming feminists. One of the parasite’s agendas was to break up the family unit and steal and control the children. Sadly, the parasites have succeeded in doing this…………. I was tricked back in the 1970s, but have since corrected myself. I am no longer a feminist…………Sex & The City series made it all look so fun and glamorous, but having one-night stands and dancing until the bar closes doesn’t move a woman forward to achieve her life goals………….Girls – Don’t waste your youth and don’t waste any time. You won’t be young and pretty forever.
Susie, I’m glad you wised up. 🙂 If you haven’t already, you should tune in to “Leonarda Jonie”. She’s funny and posted this really smart video, basically on what you’re talking about. I have young daughters and I’ll have to teach them these lessons some day.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JeLtoihGHYI&ab_channel=LeonardaJonie
Slowly, I’ve come to doubt that pair-bonding is symmetrical. Small datum: romance novels (aka chick pr0n) do nothing for me — I’ve felt much more intensely on my worst relationship.Obviously exploitable.
I saw that this feminist thing was a deal breaker in the 80’s. I refused to become a wimp or a simp or a piggybank. I got a great education and traveled the world. Men are valued elsewhere. I accidentally met my future wife in a hospital when I broke my leg. She was my doctor. We had no common language so even simple conversation took work and patience. She knew I was poor.. but interesting and adventurous. I knew she was smart and beautiful with a big heart. She was delighted to give up the stress and low pay of her career and start a new life in a foreign land, and live out her dream..to be a wife and mother. She supported and loved it when I fixed things and protected the family and provided for them. She worked outside the home too. After all these years, now we enjoy our kids and grandkids. All I ever needed was loyalty, respect and honesty, love grows each day in that environment. Our kids saw how we worked together as a couple and learned. All of their marriages are successful too.
Advice for you young men…don’t hide in a cave, there is a whole world of great women with values, virtues and ethics out there who will value and honor you for who you are.
Thanks Michael. What percentage of men would you say are expecting to get divorced later as they are standing in front of a preacher and putting a ring on the finger of a future adversary who is primed and trained to use the laws and the courts to take everything he’s got? Also, you sound pretty happy, so what percentile would you consider your own marriage to be ranked?
Today’s women learn to hate men early.
https://rumble.com/v6vgmrt-group-of-5th-grade-girls-arrested-for-plotting-to-murder-a-boy-in-the-bathr.html
Women just love men to death nowadays.
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-06-27/former-tv-contestant-tamika-chesser-accused-of-murder/105468446
Well said Brandon. As a man in my 50’s and in my second marriage……What is it with the constant nagging and the arguments? My wife needs to feel validated and that she’s right all the time, even if she’s wrong… is this what I’m supposed to live through until “death do us part”? I signed for “better or worse”, not to be ridiculed at or constant arguments just to prove her damn point. I’m so fed-up with these broads…. feminism really did a number on women, just as planned….
I’ve been a long time follower of Brandon and I can see what is happening to western world so much so that I’ve moved to Bali full time. I’m 55 and lived in Australia all my life but I can see what is happening to the culture and I’ve had enough.
I’ve heard it said that boys fantasize about being kings, while girls fantasize about being princesses. And the reason for this is simple: boys naturally gravitate towards the power and responsibility such a figure represents. While girls, on the other hand, like princesses because they represent all the power of royalty without any of the responsibility that comes with it. This is why the Disney princess line of toys has been so popular for so long.